Imagine. It is a fresh and fresh winter day. You are dating the door.
And your stubborn child? Refuse to put on your coat, of course. You have tried all the tricks of your own shelter manga. They explained that they will be cold without one. Obviously, you are late, because that is when children tend to be more cooperative. It is science.
What he does below is an official proof of his parenting style.
Yes you:
- Recognize your child’s great feelings on coats, validate your frustration, but remember that we must use a warm coat to stay safe, it can be a Soft father.
- Fight your child in his coat as he shouts so strong that the chitanieve driver in the next block shakes his head and murmurs: “Children”, you could be a Authorized father.
- Shrug and say: “It’s fine. Good luck playing Minecraft after your arms fall,” you could be a Fafo’s father, And congratulations, you are in a trend!
Fafo’s raising, which means “FK around and discovered”, is the last trend that parents are buzzing at this time. Fafo’s raising encourages parents to “discover” the natural consequences of their actions, within reason. How to feel hungry if they don’t dinner.
Or “discover” how miserable it is to play outside in a shirt in February, turning and pulling his coat. Quickly, luckily.
“The natural consequences are exactly that: natural, not created by parents,” Julie Romanowski, parents coach and Vancouver headquarters told CBC News.
It is the difference between warning a child to move in a staggering chair could mean that they fall, and let them decide whether it is worth risk or warns their son that if they do not stop moving there is no dessert, he explained.
The natural consequences are healthy, he added, as long as parents really understand the difference between a true natural consequence and a hidden threat. Threats, or “false natural consequences”, such as saying “there is no dessert if you move in the chair”, they appeal to some parents because it allows them to feel that they have control over the situation or the son, Romanowski explained.
“What may be true but at the expense of development or children’s relationship.”
A more empathetic approach, known as Gentile Paternity, has been a great trend in recent years, but experts and influencers are beginning to go back. Deana Summanac Johnson de CBC breaks down what is behind the growing resistance to the raising of children.
Why is Fafo raising attractive?
“F Around and Descaller” has become a basic element of modern Internet culture, with more than half a million publications in Tiktok in the #Fafo form. The term of jargon is typically used as a warning that actions have consequences.
Fafo’s raising can be increasing as a counterpoint to some of the most modern parenting styles, such as constantly rounded helicopter parents, or gentle fatherhood, the extremely popular modern style that focuses on recognizing the feelings of a child and the motivations behind challenging behaviors.
Gentile upbringing has faced a growing resistance lately, with experts and influential ones who retire, saying that it is too easy for children and hard for parents.
Some of the comments on Fafo online breeding publications say that it gives people the hope of the next generation of children, or that dates back to how they raised. This is especially true for generation X, who has been called the “F of F around and the generation of discovering” or “lacquer generation”, raised by working parents who, for better or worse, may have helped Promote resilience.
“Part of the challenge that many children face is that they have this type of snowflow, helicopter, corteped parents who do not allow the child any sense of himself and autonomy they need to move around the world,” said Vanessa Lapointe, a psychologist Registered and Surrey Headquarters Consultant, BC
“But I think with most things, there is a balance that must be beaten.”
A public health notice says that today’s parents face unique challenges that can affect their mental health. Some parents of older generations say that raising children has always been, and it will always be a fight. Can we really say what generation the worst has had?
For example, some of the fafo breeding videos that circulate online could also be considered cruel, including one in which a man seems to shave his son’s head to intimidate a classmate with cancer, or dangerous, like the one who It implies being burned by a boiling pot of the water would teach a child not to touch anything in the stove.
The first example is a consequence imposed by parents; The second is simply dangerous. Nor is it a true and appropriate natural consequence for development.
As one of the first influential to specifically call his breeding style “F achieved and discover”, he says in his viral video, he does not let his children Fafo if “discovering” could involve risk or danger.
‘A subgenre’ of authorized parenting?
A Tiktok creator who goes through “Hey i’m Janelle” published for the first time about the raising of Fafo in 2022, and his video recently won more traction, with about 350,000 visits.
She describes a rainy day in the camp where her son wanted to take off her jacket, and added that she does not fight her children in coats unless it is dangerous to go without one. She explained that she would get wet, she said in the video, and her son insisted that she was fine.
And when it wasn’t right? “I had to decide for itself when I had enough,” he explained.
“I practice authorized parenting but within what I would consider a subgenre that would call ‘FK and discover’ parenting … [kids] Get its natural consequences and discover the way through them. ”
Romanowski argues, however, that the natural consequences made correctly are actually part of the Gentile upbringing, unless the consequences are threats imposed by the parents.
The idea of letting children learn the natural consequences also align with the theory of breeding of children popularized by the author of the parent popularized by the author Mel Robbins, Let they’s theory What headed the bestseller list of Publishers Weekly for this week.
“Let your children fail, to be rejected and let their lives live,” Robbins wrote along with a December 2024 Tiktok video with more than 507,000 visits.
More recently, the term has taken off thanks to the personality of the media Kylie Kelce. In the episode of February 6 of his podcast I’m not going to lieKelce said he discovered the term while moving on Instagram. Finally, she saw the video of “Hi, I’m Janelle”.
“His raising jackets hits near home,” Kelce laughed, who has three children and a room on his way. The video has been seen almost 234,000 times.
When is inappropriate ‘discover’?
Child security issues versus Independence are discussed in the parental community. In parental literature, the term “security” has been used to describe the modern culture of overprotective children.
But letting your child learn from the natural consequences of your own actions is balanced too much in the other direction? If he has a highly sensitive and intense child, for example, letting them fail “he will feel like death for them,” Lapointe said.
He added that the approach does not necessarily work for each family and the realities of their daily lives. For example, most parents cannot simply send their children to school without a jacket, so they will have to intervene and be reasonable “just to do things.”
In addition, establishing the bar too high and allowing their children to stumble constantly in it could be physically dangerous, on the one hand, but also affect their emotional well -being, he said.
“We don’t want to hang the children to dry,” he said.
